Are You Living To Someone Else's Agenda?


Who would have guessed that a guy like me who couldn't even manage to write a diary is able to write every day?

I would have laughed at you in August 2001 if you had told me that, just 30 months later...I would be doing this.

Back then...I was on anti-depressants, constantly stressed through juggling looking after Connor with working abroad for almost 6 days a week for 3 weeks out of four.

Lesley and I were close to breaking point.

That August was a turning point for me because it made me realize what life was all about.

It wasn't about focusing on a career at the expense of a family life.
It wasn't about having to put up with feeling miserable because I "couldn't" do anything about it.
It wasn't about trying to be someone I was not

And...it certainly wasn't about job security.

When I decided that fateful week in August that I was going to quit my job by December 1st that year...NOTHING mattered anymore...apart from one very important thing.

The ONLY thing that mattered to me was that I didn't HAVE to do what I didn't want to do.

Sure...we all need an income, and the 'career' that may provide it...but, I would gladly have taken just a part-time job to pay the bills so that I didn't have to face compromising what was REALLY important to me...

My mental health...and the physical and mental health of my family.

Looking back...I honestly couldn't tell you how I had the guts to do it. But I did.

And now...I KNOW that I COULD because I NEEDED to be 'somewhere else' more important than chasing money and prestige.

I needed to be ME...and I needed to have a life that, despite all of its ups and downs...I could be HAPPY in!

Now...YOU don't have to quit your job like I did...YOU just need (at the beginning) to LOOK at WHY you are doing things because you feel you HAVE to.

Life's too short to live it to someone elses' agenda.

It's only when you live it to your own like I now do...that you realize that you CAN have a happy and relatively stress-free life.

BUT...only if you change what makes you unhappy first!