The See-Saw And Sabotaging Myself...


Question:

"The biggest problem I have right now is I have studied wealth & personal development for several years but I still can't find out why my mind won't let me achieve wealth.

Your help in this would be greatly appreiciated because right now I think I need a miracle."

Answer:

Who's to say that your goals are not SUPPOSED to be 'sabotaged'?

Are the goals that you are aiming for really what you want to achieve? Are they based around what YOU want...or what you believe you SHOULD want - or what other peoples' expectations of you are?

I'm certainly not convinced that your subconscious doesn't want you to have what you want.

In fact...it wants entirely the opposite - to find a solution to what you are asking it!

So...you MAY be writing goals down, saying affirmations, and taking your opportunities as they come along - but if, deep down, what you are aiming for is not 'right' for you - then by default - you're going to find a way NOT to make them happen.

OK. So perhaps your goals ARE ones that you truly believe are based on your passions and your values...what then?

Well...

Forget about blaming your subconscious. Blaming anything or anyone else is NOT the way to go about achieving success.

YOU have to accept FULL responsibility...because YOU are in control. Never forget that.

One thing that you should NOT do is take your success too seriously.

It may be a strange thing for me to say...but, the more you fret and get stressed out about NOT achieving what you want - the more you're filling your mind with negatives built around what you want.

Your mind is like a see-saw...constantly swinging up and down - negative thoughts at one end - positive thoughts in the other.

The more you think about negative (and destructive) things it becomes 'heavier' - and leaves your positive (creative) thoughts hanging in the air hopelessly swinging their achievement legs!

It's easy to focus on things not going right...it's always so much harder to see what you HAVE achieved whilst trying.

You said that you almost reach your goals before they get sabotaged.

In my book - if you're almost there - then isn't that a GOOD thing? Doesn't that mean that you have moved forward from where you didn't want to be towards where you DO want to be?

Sounds like achievement to me!

Don't get hung up on not reaching the 'destination' of your goal. Quite often...in order to reach a BETTER destination in the future - you have to quite often go completely off course from where you THINK that you want to go.

The enjoyment and challenge of the JOURNEY itself is what you should be aiming for anyway - not a goal (which is usually money-oriented for most people) which, once you arrive at it - you will want something more!

When I was sixteen and just started work on $5,000 a year salary - I would have happily believed that I would have been 'made for life' if I was earning $20,000 a year. Why then, at 30, when I was earning more than TEN times what I was at sixteen - I had more debts than ever before and was miserable as hell?

Never forget that life isn't about reaching a goal - it's about experiencing and enjoying as much of it as we can!